Healing Couples Therapy
Healing Couples Therapy
Healing Couples Therapy: Enabling People to Connect and Be Happier in Their Relationships
Discover the Fastest way to reconnect
Emotionally with your partner again
Discover the Fastest way to reconnect emotionally with your partner again
(And Rekindle the Love You Had When You First Got Together)

discover The "Almost Backwards" Way to connect that

ANYONE Can use to energize

their relationship in just minutes. even if...

discover The
"Almost Backwards" way to connect that  ANYONE Can use to energize their relationship in just minutes. even if...

– you are completely different from your partner...
– frequently argue or are disconnected from each other...
– haven't had passion in years...
– Have differences in sex drives...
– have unresolved (past or present) issues in the relationship...

Hi, my name is Sam Tielemans, and I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.

At my clinic, we get about 100 calls a month, and 90% of the people who reach out are struggling with their connection in their relationship…
…and the approach they've been using is running their relationship into the ground (and sadly most couples use it...) 
Most people don't realize this, but single most important tool that couples can use to ignite more connection is to communicate in the specific way that creates it.

We all know that communication is fundamental to a great relationship.

But there are different TYPES and purposes of communication…

And when you use the wrong type in your romantic relationship, it’s the kiss of death to the love and excitement that was once there.

For instance, there is a type of communication that colleagues use to get a project done at work, a type that friends use to have fun together, and a type that parents use to instill values and give direction to their kids…
...but the type that most people dream of having in their relationship is what I call
Connection-Centered Communication...
It’s so desirable and crucial to relationship success because it can instantly trigger feelings of intimacy, connection, passion, love, and closeness.
It perfectly aligns with the psychology of what leads human beings to connect with another person on a deep level and to create the kind of intimacy that we are jealous of when we see it in other relationships...

The good news is that these communication strategies work in ANY relationship.

However, most people have NO IDEA what it looks like, let alone understand the principles of how to actually apply it in their own relationship…
 
I didn’t always know about this type of communication either…

And my clients unfortunately suffered because they didn’t get the help that they needed from me early on in my career...
I still remember from years ago one of the first couples I ever worked with while I was a student therapist...

...because it was a disaster.
...truth be told, I was in over my head...
During this session, the wife was sitting there crying and frozen in her emotions...

I tried getting through to her...

Nothing...

She just stared at the floor, overwhelmed in pain...

"Susan.. What's happening for you right now?" I asked..

Silence...

Her husband had no idea what to do or how to comfort her, and frankly, neither did I... 

It's embarrassing to admit...

...but I got up and drew something on the whiteboard in the office so I could try to explain whys he was feeling the way she was (wrong form of communication...)

It was a wreck...
...And as delicately as she could, my supervisor basically said that I did it all wrong...
I couldn't fully understand it at the time, but they were consistently using the wrong type of communication with each other which caused MASSIVE unintended consequences:
She was misunderstood and felt unimportant and unloved by her husband, so she'd be upset and lash out in anger...

He'd shut down and withdraw, avoid conversations with her, distance himself and would get hopeless and feel like a failure...
They had no idea how to communicate in the way that sparked the intimacy and love they craved...
The sad truth is that I wasn't equipped to help them at that stage in my career.

They didn't come back to see me for too much longer, and I couldn't blame them...
But I was 100% committed to figuring out how to help couples because I didn't want my clients to continue to struggle, fight, and be emotionally drained by their relationships...
So I dove in and consulted with experts and asked countless questions, met in supervision groups, went to workshop after workshop...
 ...and through it all I discovered the principles of this little-known approach to communication, and it was completely counter intuitive
This approach was almost too simple and could have been easy to overlook...

But as I met with my couples, I gave it a shot to see what would happen...

And to my amazement...
  The results that I saw were magical!
It was astonishing for me to witness the kind of growth that these couples were seeing in such a short amount of time!

I got so excited about this discovery!

I began to apply the principles of Connection-Centered Communication with every couple who came in...

And it worked over and over again with lots of different couples!

This communication approach worked for them even if they were struggling with:

– Low libido and mismatched Sex Drives or desires...
– financial stress...
– Frequent arguing or fighting
– feeling like they were always on different pages
– having different hobbies or interests...
– excessive screen or video game time...
– Differences in parenting...
– Infidelity or broken trust...
– Not getting enough help around the house or with the kids...
– And so much more...

Not only did Connection-Centered Communication help create a feeling of true intimacy, excitement, love, and passion back in the relationship...

It helped them actually resolve these difficult issues they had been facing without a resolution (sometimes for years!)

And when you know how to communicate in the language of the heart and emotion, it instantly creates this magnetic attraction that you can’t help but WANT to be around...

...It's the kind of energy that's intoxicating, the type of connection that makes you feel amazing.
These tools have a 90% success rate of improving the relationship, which is off-the-charts good for couples who want to restore their relationship!
That means that 9 out of 10 couples are able to:
  • Actually be IN LOVE again!
  • ​Spend quality time together that's fun and exciting
  • Cultivate a deep sense of intimacy and connection in all areas
  • ​Can communication openly, feel understood and loved
  • Reignite their passion and have a satisfying and fulfilling sex life
  • ​Have a foundation of trust, honesty and respect for one another
Most couples have no idea how to get beneath the surface level and resolve the root of the problem, so they end up having same fights over and over again...

The less you know about how to connect with your partner, the more your relationship erodes away by the negative cycles you get stuck in...

...The good news is that ANYONE can learn these get-to-the-core communication skills (in a very short amount of time) once they are handed the step-by-step blueprint.
As I work with couples, I show them:
  • ​The blueprint to trigger connection, intimacy on all levels, and fulfillment in your relationship.
  • ​How to communicate effortlessly and be completely understood by your partner
  • The magic ingredient that keeps a relationship fresh and exciting (no matter how long you're together)
  • The best approach to discuss difficult subjects have been avoided unresolved from the past...
  • How to create the spark and have an amazing sex life together
  • ​The #1 way to unite with your partner and be a strong team together (even if you disagree on things)
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So... You might be wondering...
How does this work exactly? and What is
connection-Centered Communication?
Connection-Centered Communication is an approach that is specific for romantic relationships.

It is different than other forms of communication and it has a totally different purpose.

It’s main purpose is to create feelings of love, attraction, closeness, and fulfillment.

All of the other types of communication have a DIFFERENT purpose and use…

And when you use the wrong one for your romantic relationship, it causes fights, disagreements, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings.

Some of the other types of communication include:

Educating...

Motivating...

Leading...

Parenting...

…and perhaps the most commonly used approach in romantic relationships is "problem-centered communication"...

And if this is your default approach, then your excitement, passion, and connection are on a crash course to breaking down...

It's just a matter of time…
well... How can i know if I'm using the wrong communication approach...?
If you're experiencing any of these symptoms, then you're using the wrong approach:
  • ​You talk about how you're feeling but your partner tries to fix it (or you), goes into problem-solving mode, and it leaves you feeling frustrated and misunderstood...
  • ​Disagreements or conflict leads to feeling unimportant, unloved, inadequate, sad, and alone...
  • Difficult subjects are avoided and issues are swept under the rug and are unresolved...
  • ​If your sex life is dull, uninspiring, and lacks the spark you once had...
  • ​Blaming and defensiveness are common reactions...
  • You explain things over and over again to your partner but they still don't get it...
  • ​You feel distance, resentment, or like you and your partner are on different pages...
Why does problem-Centered communication
lead to a breakdown in the relationship?
Because we are in relationships because we want to be connected and feel close to our partner.

Using problem-centered, or any of the other types of communication, doesn't create feelings of love!

It simply creates insights, a-ha moments, and a cognitive understanding of a point of discussion.
Here's the difference:
Does that mean that you should never discuss the issues that are happening in the relationship?
Of course we need to address challenges in our relationships...

...but it's not WHAT you do, it's HOW you do it.
Connection-Centered Communication helps couples quickly get connected and on the same team together...
THEN you can solve challenges together almost instantly!

...Reversing the order and focusing on the problems first will RUIN a relationship...

It leaves people feeling hollow and empty and fighting because conversations devolve from discussing an issue into attacking each other, the silent treatment, shutting down, and lashing out...
Learning how to speak to the heart is tHE MOST important skill you can master in a relationship!
According to a landmark study by Ted Huston of the University of Texas, increasing conflict IS NOT what causes divorce, rather it is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness.
In other words... People get INTO relationships for emotional reasons, and they BREAK UP for emotional reasons...  
Being emotionally connected is the experience of feeling in love, attraction, being desired, having close intimacy with your partner, and being on the same team together.

It's so important because connection is FUNDAMENTAL to a strong, happy, and fulfilling relationship!

...and without it, your relationship will decay...
If you'd like help creating the relationship you've always wanted, increase your connection, passion, and intimacy, contact us today to set up an appointment
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About Us
Sam Tielemans
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
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FAQs
How much and how long are sessions?
Each session is 50 minutes long and the rate is $150 per session.
Do you accept insurance
We are not in any insurance networks, but each therapist here provides a "superbill" or a receipt for services that can be reimbursed from the client's insurance company directly to the client depending on the kind of plan and benefits. Check with your provider to see if they reimburse out-of-network therapists.
How many sessions will it take for Couples to be better?
It varies depending on each client and how much support they want in the process as they get new tools for their relationship. However, most clients do between 4-10 sessions. Our goal is to get you the tools you need and have an end to therapy so you can move forward and continue to apply the tools we've shared with you throughout the rest of your relationship.
I'm new to the process, what can I expect with therapy?
If you've never done therapy before, the process is very simple here – after you reach out and set up an initial appointment, the therapist will meet with you to better understand your situation, learn about your goals, and start giving you some tools and direction to help you make progress. If it feels like a good fit and you want to make a follow up appointment, the following sessions build on the progress you're making and continue to help give you new tools and implement them into your relationship.

Our goal for therapy is that it has an end! We want to equip you with all of what you need to have a successful relationship, and as we give you the tools and help you implement them, you won't need to continue to see us because you can overcome barriers on your own.
Schedule an appointment today and discover the exact tools you need to get your relationship back in a good place.
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